Thursday, March 22, 2012

Happy Birthday Mom...

Dad & Mom. A bit worn, but a favorite of hers.
Another "whether" or not decision (see the NaBloPoMo link on my sidebar).  Today is my mom's birthday.  She would have been 74 this year, but passed away at 65.  In June, she will have been gone 9 years.  That's so hard to believe.  It took a long time for me to come to terms with her loss.  Longer than some thought was healthy, but my processing of change tends to be slow.  I've talked a lot about how her life and her loss impacted me, so the decision was whether to talk about it again.

Obviously, I decided to do it.  Those of you who have lost a parent will understand.  They remain imprinted into our psyche, whether they are present in this life or have moved on into the next.  Lessons learned, laughter shared, a look, a touch, just their "being" is missed.  It doesn't mean I don't have faith in where she is at.  My beliefs tell me she is in heaven, with those who traveled there before she arrived and since, but my heart wishes I could call her on the phone for a chat, or go to a yard sale with her.  Here's an earlier post I wanted to share with you today.  In it, I explain why I began writing my blog.

I wrote it on my two-year anniversary of blogging.  Tomorrow I will celebrate four years!  Blogging has been a wonderful experience for me.  A place to share my laughter and my tears.  A community of like-minded folks, as well as some who are so very different from me, and I've loved it all.  I look forward to continuing this interesting journey with each of you.

 © 22MAR2012 aj


Donna said...

Your mom looks so sweet in that photo! Happy birthday to her, at her heavenly home. We carry the memories of our parents on, no matter what. I lost my dad 27 years ago. Hard to believe that it has been that long. I've lived longer than he did. My mom is still tinkering along, but she is getting more frail the past couple of years. She is now 85.

And four years of blogging! How wonderful! Happy blogaversary!!!

Michelle Palmer said...

Good Morning, Sweet Friend! Thank you for stopping by and leaving a comment... I pulled your name from the hat & you won the acorn linen & vintage buttons!! Congratulations!
Please email me your address
I'll have your treasure packaged & on its way home :)

My dad passed away from cancer one week before my 13th birthday. I have missed him for 30 years, April 21st. We all mourn differently. I celebrate his life by sharing every detail I can remember with our two children who "feel like they know him" better than their living grandparents. My mom died this past Oct. ~ she was a very abusive person. Very few fond memories... more of a Cinderella life after my dad passed. However... I miss calling her every morning~ to make her laugh. She never laughed. Her death has brought me a type of freedom. Very difficult to describe. Your momma must have been an amazing woman. Her loved touched your life and your heart in a way that everyday she is with you. My dad was loved by everyone who met him... the glue of a large family (he was one of 13, my mother one of 14) they ALL loved him.
We all mourn, remember and cherish differently. It is important that you take the time... remember as much as you want~ hold on until you can let go on your own.
Hugs and best wishes!
So happy your name led me to this post~ celebrating your mom... and remembering my dad~

Nita Jo said...

Donna and Michelle, Thanks for sharing your memories with me. The great thing about blogging is meeting people who have shared some of the same kinds of things and are so caring and supportive! It means so much!

And Michelle, I'm so excited to have won! I've already sent an email off to you with my information! Thank you!